5 Things I Wish I Considered Before Starting a Long-Distance Relationship


Going into a long-distance relationship can be both exciting and daunting. While it is definitely an adventure and provides the opportunity to learn important things about yourself and your partner, there are certain things that can make the path to success a bit bumpier. When I first considered starting a long-distance relationship, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I thought it would be easy to maintain a romantic connection from far away. I was wrong. Long-distance relationships are hard work, requiring lots of communication and trust.

1. Time

Long-distance relationships require that both partners make a conscious effort to communicate and keep the relationship alive. It’s important to consider how much time each partner can realistically spend on phone calls, video calls, and other forms of communication so that the relationship won’t suffer. Both partners should also plan regular visits, both short and long, to maintain the relationship’s healthy balance. Setting aside a certain amount of time each day and week to chat or call will help keep the relationship strong, no matter the distance. Time is a precious commodity, and it’s important that both partners schedule it wisely to make sure their relationship thrives. Every hour spent talking and sharing can bring each of you closer together, no matter the distance between you. Time is the number one factor to consider when beginning a long-distance relationship. With all of the available technology, there’s no excuse not to keep the connection strong. Make time for your partner, and you’ll make it through any distance!

2. Finances

The person who makes significantly more money might end up feeling a little bit resentful, or burdened if they’re the one paying for stuff

Lindsey Warwick

Money is often a factor to consider when contemplating a long-distance relationship. Both partners need to be aware of the costs associated with the distance, such as travel expenses and telecommunications fees. It’s important to have honest conversations about finances and plan ahead for any potential financial strain. “The person who makes significantly more money might end up feeling a little bit resentful, or burdened if they’re the one paying for stuff,” says Lindsey Warwick, LPC-Associate and LMFT-Associate at The Gracious Mind in Texas. “Being aware of and attentive to that, have conversations around that, acknowledge or ask if that’s happening. You don’t want resentment to build up over time.”

Having a budget in place that factors in the costs of long-distance love can help both partners make informed decisions about their relationship. Also, having an understanding of each other’s financial situation and being open to creative solutions can go a long way in making sure your finances don’t get in the way of your relationship. After all, money is just one of the many ingredients needed for a successful long-distance relationship. With communication, love, and trust, there’s nothing you can’t overcome!

3. Trust

In any relationship, trust is essential for it to thrive. This is especially true for long-distance relationships, where a lack of physical contact can make it more difficult to build trust between partners. That’s why it is so important to make sure that you both are committed to building an open and honest relationship, where trust is the foundation. Starting a long-distance relationship without trust is like building a house on sand – it’s shaky, and you can never really be sure if it’s going to hold up or not. That’s why making sure trust is the cornerstone of your relationship is key to its success. When you’re in a long-distance relationship, you need to be able to trust that the person on the other end is worth your time and energy. If you can’t trust them, then there’s no point in investing yourself in the relationship. That’s why it’s important to discuss expectations and boundaries before getting in too deep. Building trust takes time, but it is totally worth it when you find someone who respects and understands you.

4. Goals

It’s important to discuss and be on the same page regarding your goals in the relationship. This can range from short-term objectives, such as how often you’ll communicate each week, to more long-term objectives like how you intend to eventually come together in the same city or country. Without setting goals and having an idea of what both of you expect from the relationship, it can become difficult to stay on track and make sure that your relationship is headed in the right direction. This can also help to prevent unspoken expectations and assumptions that can lead to misunderstandings or disappointment. Setting goals can also help to keep both of you motivated and committed to making your long-distance relationship work, “Don’t rely on a super rigid plan, but have something that at least gives you some idea, especially if you’re a planner and a goal setter and a scheduler.” says Warwick.

By taking the time to discuss mutually agreed upon goals before starting a long-distance relationship, you can make sure that both of you are on the same page and have a clear idea of what needs to be done for the relationship to succeed. Goals can also help provide a sense of purpose and direction, ensuring that you are both working towards something that you both believe in.

5. Communication

Effective communication is key to any successful relationship, and especially for long-distance ones. Not only do both partners need to be willing and able to communicate, but they should also be comfortable discussing feelings and expressing needs in a meaningful way. It’s important to discuss how often and in what ways you’ll stay in touch, as well as how to handle disagreements. With a plan in place to ensure effective communication, you can make sure your long-distance relationship has the best chance of success. Taking the time to talk things out and express feelings can help strengthen your bond, even from far away. It’s also important to remind yourself that communication can take many forms, from phone calls and texting to virtual hangouts. Find out what works best for both of you and commit to staying connected to keep your relationship strong. With a little effort and creativity, communication can help you create an unbreakable bond even when your physical presence isn’t possible.

Amy started blogging as an attempt to cope with her postpartum depression and moving half-way across the world. She hopes that her words can somehow help other struggling moms that feel like they don't have this 'mom thing' totally together. She has two boys under three and in her spare time(what's that?) she enjoys being out in her garden, biking and vegging out watching Netflix. She will never pass down a warm cup of coffee and her favorite past-time is forgetting where she put her car-keys.