Decreased Libido: What are the Causes?

Decreased sexual drive (libido) is a common problem that affects many women and men, equally, at some point in their lives. Most of the time, it is associated with problems in the couple’s relationship, stress or fatigue, but also with some disorders, such as a drop in hormone levels.

If you feel that your sexual appetite is diminished, which frustrates you and affects your relationship, it’s time to take action.

Most common causes of decreased sexual appetite:


Problems with the life partner are one of the main causes of decreased sexual drive. In the case of women, the emotional part of closeness to the partner plays an extremely important role in sexual life. However, both in the case of women and men, arguments, lack of communication, betrayal or lack of trust are important factors in the decrease of libido. Try to openly talk with your partner and, if you cannot solve the problems, turn to a specialized counselor.


If you are shy person, a glass of wine, beer can disinhibit you, giving you the necessary courage. However, too much alcohol can affect the sex life and can be a negative factor for the partner. If you cannot give up alcohol, consult a specialist.

Lack of sleep

Insufficient sleep can affect your sex life. If you have sleep apnea, sleep disorders, such as insomnia or frequent awakenings during the night, it is advisable not to dwell on your thoughts and treat them if you want a better sex life. The doctor can determine the cause of these disorders and, depending on the case, can offer the right treatment.

The appearance of children

The birth of a child is the greatest joy. But, most of the time, the sex life suffers. It is advisable to give more importance to married life. To have more privacy, you can hire a nanny to watch the children for a few hours or you can leave them with the grandparents so you can enjoy some time alone with your partner.

Certain medications

Some medications can decrease libido. Among them are:


    medicines used to treat high blood pressure;

    oral contraceptives;


    some hormonal treatments;

    drugs to treat HIV.

Changing medications or adjusting doses may help. Ask the doctor about this aspect, don’t decide for yourself. If you have noticed a decrease in sexual drive following the administration of a new drug, talk to your doctor about this as well.

Erectile disorders

Erectile dysfunctions have an impact on sexual life and, in most cases, lead to a decrease in libido. These can be treated, however, with the help of the partner and the doctor, but first of all you have to accept that you need help.

Decreased self-esteem

Increased self-esteem and satisfaction with physical appearance are important when it comes to sex life. Be proud of the way you look. For example, if your partner doesn’t have a good opinion of him or the way he looks, talk openly and compliment them whenever you have the opportunity.


If you suffer from obesity, your libido can decrease and, implicitly, your married life suffers. It is advisable to motivate yourself to get rid of the extra pounds, both to improve your health and your sex life.

Decreased testosterone

Testosterone is the hormone that increases libido. As men get older, they face a decrease in testosterone levels. This can influence sexual appetite, but also body weight.


For many women, libido declines around menopause. This is basically caused by some symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during intercourse. However, every woman is different, and those who take care of their health can have a fulfilling sex life after menopause