End the Chaos: 6 Tips To Get Your Kids to Stop Yelling

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We all have an innate desire to express ourselves and our feelings, especially when we don’t have the words to do so. Kids tend to rely on vocal expression as a way to make their presence known and be heard in a world that can often feel overwhelming. Yelling helps them to be assertive, even when they don’t know how to express themselves in other ways. It’s also a way to get attention and feel connected, especially when they don’t know how else to do it. So while I recognize the importance of allowing them to express themselves in this way, I may find their yelling annoying at times and can totally relate to the constant struggle of every parent trying to maintain a peaceful home.

Here are 6 Tips To Get Your Kids to Stop Yelling

Acknowledge Your Child’s Feelings

Kids need to feel heard, seen and understood. When they are yelling it is a sign that they do not have the words to express their feelings. Acknowledge their frustration, sadness or anger and validate it. Ask them what happened and why they are feeling this way. Give them the space to express their feelings and ideas, this will help them to process their emotions and develop problem-solving skills.

Create a Safe Space to Talk

Make sure that your child has a safe space where they can talk to you without yelling. It could be a special corner or even just the living room couch. Whenever they need to express their feelings or simply talk to you, encourage them to go there and speak softly. This will help them to feel heard and understood without the need to raise their voice.

Redirect their Energy

Whenever your child starts yelling, redirect their energy to something else. Get creative and come up with fun activities like drawing, dancing or playing a game that will help them destress. Giving your child a physical outlet for their energy can help them learn how to express themselves in more appropriate ways. Encourage healthy habits like doing yoga or jogging to help them stay balanced and focused. And, use positive reinforcement and praise to acknowledge the small steps they take towards self-regulation.

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Set Boundaries

It is important to set clear boundaries and make sure your child understands what behavior is acceptable and what isn’t. Explain that yelling is not an appropriate way to express themselves and create consequences if they do it. Show them that you mean business by following through with the consequences when they do yell. Having a calm and firm tone of voice will help your child understand that you are serious about the boundaries.

Take Breaks

Taking a break can be a great way to give both you and your child some space. Kids need time to cool down and collect their thoughts. If they are getting too frustrated, tell them to take a break and come back once they have calmed down. You can even set a timer so they know when their break is over. Taking breaks can help everyone involved stay in control and avoid unnecessary conflicts. Taking a break can give you both the time and perspective to find a solution that works best for everyone. Plus, it’s a great way to show your kids that taking a break is one of the tools they can use to manage their emotions.

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Lead by Example

Kids learn by example so it is important to be aware of your own behavior. Try not to yell or raise your voice when you are frustrated and show them how to express their feelings in more constructive ways. Encourage them to take deep breaths, think before they speak, and be mindful of their emotions. Lead by example and your kids will follow suit!

Yelling isn’t a character flaw and it doesn’t make your child a bad person. It is just a sign that they need help to express themselves better. With patience and understanding, you can help them find more constructive ways of getting their point across. After all, a peaceful home is the best gift you can give your kids!

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Amy started blogging as an attempt to cope with her postpartum depression and moving half-way across the world. She hopes that her words can somehow help other struggling moms that feel like they don't have this 'mom thing' totally together. She has two boys under three and in her spare time(what's that?) she enjoys being out in her garden, biking and vegging out watching Netflix. She will never pass down a warm cup of coffee and her favorite past-time is forgetting where she put her car-keys.